Are you tired of swiping left and right, with no viable matches in sight? Do you feel like your dating app profiles are attracting all the wrong people? Do you want to know how to meet your soulmate in real life?
Many singles over 50 experience app fatigue. They are ready to connect with people in real life – not just digital profiles. But how? Luckily, there are plenty of ways to ditch the dating app blues and start meeting compatible people over 50. Here’s a few:
1. Maximize Your Social Circles
Instead of countless strangers, surround yourself with communities of real, in-person friends and acquaintances. Say yes to every invitation, go to mixers, join a club, take a class, volunteer, hit up Meetups – any place where you’ll find authentic interactions. The more you nurture your social circles, the more likely you are to meet available, compatible singles the old-fashioned way.
2. Identify Your Best Attraction Venues
Finding a partner in real life starts with scouting – identifying and interacting with potential matches. Look for shared activities, values and passions, because the more alignment with your goals and interests, the higher the chance of meeting soulmates. Highly aligned groups, like religious or activist organizations, provide prime venues to find partners sharing core values and a similar life vision.
3. Volunteer For a Cause You Care About
Giving back provides fulfillment while creating the possibility of meaningful connections as well. Choose a volunteer opportunity tied to a cause you’re passionate about, for example mentoring kids or building houses. A shared desire to do good attracts big-hearted, community-minded individuals, and working together towards a common goal builds bonds.
4. Up Your Flirting Game – Subtly
Flirting looks different after 50. Banter is better than pickup lines. Focus on expressing genuine interest and admiration more than overt sexuality or physical compliments. Avoid contacting matches on social media without first establishing some kind of rapport. In this way you can determine chemistry and availability in a low-pressure way before asking them for their contact info. Master the art of subtle flirtation appropriate for your age group
5. Get Comfortable Making the First Move
Especially for women over 50, cultural conditioning often discourages initiating contact with matches. Yet asking someone out directly is frequently more effective than waiting around. What’s more important – self-empowerment or antiquated rules? For example, consider saying things like, “I’d love to continue our conversation over coffee – let me give you my number.” Because confidence is attractive at every age.
6. Celebrate Your Maturity
Age brings experience and maturity is full of wisdom. Play up your sophisticated sensibilities when interacting with people – you don’t need to apologize for your age. Highlight your emotional intelligence, conversational skills, maybe your advanced career and world travels. Revel in those “been there done that” interesting life experiences.
7. Explore Your Spiritual Side
If spirituality is important to you, attend services and events at a house of worship, because these can connect you with like-minded singles. Join a small faith group or serv on a charity committee – these are gentle ways to meet without the pressure of a big social gathering.
Though finding love after 50 requires some effort on your part, purposefully employing strategies like these shifts the odds in your favor. Taking control of your romantic destiny feels worlds better than waiting for dating app luck.
So get out there, get active and be open – your next great date may be waiting right around the corner!
For more information about scouting, see the book “Conscious Dating” by David Steele.
If you have any questions about any of this, or would like to know more ways to meet your soulmate in real life, please contact me. I look forward to hearing from you.
About the Author:
Anthony Brown is a matchmaker and certified relationship coach for singles. As founder of Dating Intentionally he specializes in helping motivated mature singles to find lasting love.
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